Everyday, I get one mail, text or call or the other, that helps me know that people value my little contribution, and believe me, it’s encouraging. I don’t want to live a normal life, of grow, marry, give birth and die. I want to add value, to change lives, to bring hope, to bring help, to save, to provide to leave a legacy.
I got this mail forwarded to me by Praise Fowowe on feedback from Sex2Sex conference, and if this was the only mail and feedback from the event, I think the event is well worth it. Trust me, there is no kidding the kind of pressure that is mounted on young people. How the world migrated from a time when it was honorable to be chaste to one where being a virgin is something to be shy of amazes me. The world is on it’s head, man is dysfunctional! But before we get too far in analyzing that, read the reason why this title. It’s here and uncut!
“”H…My name’s Sola, Im 25years & I’m a virgin…”
If dat was all i heard on saturday, it wud av bin enof! dat word struck me till d end of d summit. Im also a 24yrs old virgin <at least technically> but im so ashamed of it n i cant talk to anyone abt it. Infact, I’ve left all my relationships bcos i wasnt willing 2 give in.
some weeks ago, my bf threatened a break up – unelse we had sex. I actually was goin to give in cos i was frustrated – all d men in my life av left me 4 dis same reason. I started doing blow-jobs to satisfy him despite d fact dat it made me really sick, still he insisted on SEX. I made up my mind to give it to him-afterall, everbodi does it so kini big deal?
On wednesday, i went to “food major” to quench my hunger on my way from d office and i saw d handbill. It was d SEX2SEX dat really caught my attentin n i was 1darin wat kinda program cud b tagged dis raw. then i saw Pat automi & d durrotoyes’ on it and i knew right then dt i was goin to b dere. I cancelled my date – d date we arranged Id b deflowered- and i made it to Ikeja 4 d Uth Summit, though late. Now, afta d uth summit? No way! ain’t doin it n i intend to kick his ass off my life dis weekend! I now C my virginity in a different way. though i cant talk abt it but i feel cool wit it.
Thank you all 4 helping me kip wat i now see as my most priced possesion! I hope to attend more uth forums from now.
God bless you.”
I don’t have any apologies for how this sounds, but our cultures are changing, our young people are celebrating the wrong values. What is valuable in our culture is being replaced by sham, and we are not imbibing the good things in the worlds we want to be like. It’s all our fault, in silence we agree, in refusing to shine, we encourage darkness. Sex is a good thing, but is safe, good and approved only within a marriage environment.
If this life is the only reason for the seminar, it is well worth it, but again I ask myself, what happens next? Does she get into her environment and resume with the pressure? Are we creating positive peer pressure? What are we that know what is right doing? What are you doing? These questions, require answers, not with words, with our actions.