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Affair with Pastor and World War Z!

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The Epidemic
The Epidemic

I have tried my best to maintain absolute decorum and desist from adding serious thoughts to the issues making rounds currently. I always prefer to let my words and thoughts published publicly be information that is timeless and has value beyond events and personalities. I will try to stick within that context here, to address what I see as root causes, and present truth in a timeless way, so help me God!

Let me say ahead as well, that many people are likely to not impressed by my writing what you are about to read, well, what can I say, I don’t have to labour too hard not to be a men pleaser. Let God be true, and everyman a lier. I will rather please God than please man.  I’m grateful that Jesus was called terrible names, that’s who I follow. I quite agree that many people can’t talk about this, because they are not perfect, as if perfection is the only requirement for stemming an evil, saying the right thing, and letting God be true and every man or “man of God” a lier! Well, I’m not perfect either, but I’m working hard towards it!  When I err I ask for mercy and don’t cover my sin, when I err, I expect my brothers to chastise me privately, not cover me, if I continue erring I expect them to escalate to people I respect, and when I don’t stop, all HELL must break lose in exposing me to the world for what I am doing – according to the scripture a heathen and as good as a tax collector in Jesus’ days. (Matt 18:15-17). 

This is not even about a particular pastor in question, Pastor’s are doing these, a number of pastors, and it’s becoming an epidemic. This is the type of epidemic that festers when we disobey scriptures as shown in 1Tim 5:19,20.”19 Do not receive an accusation against an elder except from two or three witnesses. 20 Those who are sinning rebuke in the presence of all, that the rest also may fear.” Leadership sin confirmed must not be confronted privately, it must be confronted publicly. When someone errs momentarily, then you can restore them privately and cautiously as shown in Gal 6:1. Once there is a track record of error however, the only cure is public reprimand, that’s the only way to cause fear and trepidation in the hearts and lives of others who would naturally emulate the errors. I am in this light, duty bound, as a child of God with divine revelation and instruction to speak to the body of Christ within my sphere of influence and make it clear, that the STANDARD has not changed, and no matter the composition of this generation, God still desires people who will not bow to false religion.

Don’t ask me if what the lady said is true or false, that’s not the issue. I am aware that the lady is under intense pressure currently to either leave things as they are, not respond to the pastor’s response, say that she stretched the truth a bit or outrightly change her testimony. Our culture is a funny one –  A husband rapes (has consenting sex) with a 16 year old house girl, and the wife supports her husband and call the house girl the seducer! The price of truth is alienation from family and friends. They come at you, they are suddenly against you! Society is wicked, thinking about the celebrated man and his church rather than the souls possibly being destroyed! I am not only aware of a few things going on behind the scenes, I have a few facts. I will however not talk about them until I get a finger in my throat, let’s however focus on the larger issues. Let it be on record that I have not ascertained as true or false the issue on ground. I do not need to for now. Here is what the standard should be for our approach to leadership involvement in sin.

1. A love of righteousness must come with hatred for iniquity – “Thou hast loved righteousness, and hated iniquity; therefore God, even thy God, hath anointed thee with the oil of gladness above thy fellows”. Let’s not be holier than Jesus! You can’t say you love the lords work and condone any semblance or evil if found out to be factual. The hand that causes to sin, should be cut off! If there is an issue, that person should be separated and properly dealt with before being restored. No shortcuts! If it’s happening to you, or it’s happening in your church, or you know a friend it has happened to, you owe God and his finished work the debt of going to someone who is really a leader and voicing out.

2. We need to decide when our brothers or sisters are out of line! – 1 Corinthians 5:9-13. “I wrote you in my earlier letter that you shouldn’t make yourselves at home among the sexually promiscuous. I didn’t mean that you should have nothing at all to do with outsiders of that sort. Or with crooks, whether blue- or white-collar. Or with spiritual phonies, for that matter. You’d have to leave the world entirely to do that! But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when a friend who claims to be a Christian is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behaviour. I’m not responsible for what the outsiders do, but don’t we have some responsibility for those within our community of believers? God decides on the outsiders, but we need to decide when our brothers and sisters are out of line and, if necessary, clean house.” – NIV says, expel the person from among you, get rid of them!!

Yes you heard it right, we are meant to Judge immorality in the Church, while leaving outsiders to God! It is our duty as believers to ensure we don’t make a mockery of God, by condoning what is clearly wrong.

3. Your Pastor will have a stricter Judgment from God than you. James 3:1. We cannot afford to be too lenient on Pastors, there role requires higher standards as they are leaders and provide a lot of people with direction. They are also custodians of the pools that people drink from, and if the head is sick, then body is infected. It doesn’t matter if your Pastor is working miracles by the second, and prophesying change to your life per minute. If there is a character whole in his armour, it’s a matter of time, you will soon be struggling with the same realities. Matt 10:25 “It is enough for the disciple that he be as his master, and the servant as his lord. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebub, how much more shall they call them of his household?”. If your pastor is promiscuous, it will flow down in time! If it’s not happening to you yet, you are enjoying God’s grace. His grace will not sustain you for long, where he did not send you.

4. Nobody heard God when he called your Pastor! So let’s not make a myth out of God’s calling. The scripture outlines the qualifications for church leadership in 1Tim 3:1-7. If God calls you and you can’t live by those standards, it’s clear he didn’t call you. You will know people by their fruits, and there are two levels of fruit. Their behaviour, and the people who were born to God through them. So if God calls you and you find it difficult to be blameless, above reproach, committed to your wife, not money hungry, not pushy, handle your own affairs e.t.c, then you should “Uncall” yourself, and let people who should pastor, pastor.

5. Don’t sell your voice! This goes out to all the men of God out there, who know of the many cases of abused ladies, cheated guys and so many messy cases out there perpetrated by different people in the name of God. My charge to you is, don’t keep quiet, don’t cover it up. The wrong habits are growing, sin is getting power under our silent treatment and the generations of our children are being messed up. Don’t gloss over the issues, they are real and daunting. Place your wife in the same spot as some of these ladies, place your daughter? If your view or comment will change, then you are being hypocritical. Let’s speak strongly against evil, let’s stand up for integrity within our communities. Let’s dare to be a Noah, someone God can trust and depend on to preserve the earth. Like in the days of Noah, the world is very much like a sewer, with evil multiplying all over the place, let’s play our roles and shed our lights in our little places of influence. As a child, my mother told me, he who lies, will steal, and he who steals will be involved in fornication and adultery. I don’t know if your mother told you the same, I have however seen it life, that if you see stealing, then lying preceded it, if you see fornication and adultery, then you know what should have come ahead. Don’t sell your voice! Some of us have been paid already, we’ve been given platforms to speak in exchange for reward, and our tongues are forever tied in loyalty, our brotherhood was paid for, not by the blood of Jesus, but by the blood of commerce. My brothers, don’t sell your voice!

6. What do we do, if these types of things happen and they are true? The culprits must confess their sins and seek pardon. They must take a few years of ministry work, and find a lower place to serve and work, they must stay off limelight and serve God in humility and keep their hands off the till. If things go bad and still go on, then let it be clear that what we are running no matter how many times Jesus is called, is the Synagogue of Satan!

In closing for now, if you have any issues of this sort that you have lacked the confidence or the platform to share it, send it to me here at deoluakinyemi@gmail.com. People are hurting badly, and church leadership is disappointing them. I will weight he cases, and know if to keep you anonymous or discuss with you if you want to be known. I received a few mails already, from people complaining bitterly about their experiences in the hand of  so called “Pastors”. We can’t continue to ignore! We can’t also continue in sin and expect grace to abound. It’s an epidemic, and we need to gather the evidences, find the virus and place the cure – the STANDARD of GOD against it!

I’m holding my direct comments on the issues on ground, in anticipation that it will be resolved properly without requiring external intervention. I am writing what I have divine permission to write, and for now, that’s all!

Adeolu Akinyemi

Adeolu Akinyemi

8 thoughts on “Affair with Pastor and World War Z!”

  1. Kulikuli
    August 25, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Bi iro ba lo fun ogun odun, otito a fi ara han ni ojo kan. Boya ojo n ti de… iwa ibaje to nile Oluwa!!!

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  2. Emmanuel Afolabi
    August 25, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Real Issues addressed! Thought Provoking. #DeoluAkinyemi

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  3. Opeonifade
    August 25, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    This is sound teaching. Let him who has ears hear!

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  4. Opeonifade
    August 25, 2013 at 7:53 pm

    I wrote you in my earlier letter that you shouldn’t make yourselves at home among the sexually promiscuous. I didn’t mean that you should have nothing at all to do with outsiders of that sort. Or with crooks, whether blue- or white-collar. Or with spiritual phonies, for that matter. You’d have to leave the world entirely to do that! But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when a friend who claims to be a Christian is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behavior. I’m not responsible for what the outsiders do, but don’t we have some responsibility for those within our community of believers? God decides on the outsiders, but we need to decide when our brothers and sisters are out of line and, if necessary, clean house. (1 Corinthians 5:9-13 MSG)

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  5. Uche
    August 25, 2013 at 10:48 pm

    You may want to read what other Nigerian women have to say about the pastor in question by going to this blog – http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2013/08/my-affair-with-married-pastor-plus.html#more.

    More women are coming out against the guy, and it is worrisome that the church let it go this far…

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  6. Ben
    August 26, 2013 at 2:06 am

    I have known Deolu Akinyemi since 2005 when he started coming to UNILORIN for motivational speaking engagements and all that. I even saw him in COZA with minister Kunle, and Deji okanlawon i think sometime in 2006. However, I think the tussle began when minister Kunle left COZA and told you guys bad things about the church. Irrespective of your view about this man, i believe its wrong to use the social media as a means to talk trash about a pastor. All the pastors in nigeria have a scandal whatsoever going on. Scandal is a scandal either its sexual, occult, assault, or money. Pastor Biodun irrespective of the scandal has touched alot of lives spiritually than you sir. I believe Deolu is being emotional about this situation and also using his prior information about Pastor Biodun to arrive at a conclusion. Im sure the great men of God you respect in Nigeria wouldn’t have commented like you did sir despite their higher spirituality and impaction. I respect you both and I believe what had happened to Pastor Biodun calls for more carefulness on our paths. We all have our secret sins including you sir. Lets just pray that God will heal those affected and keep the body of christ sane. I would leave with this “If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall” 1 cor 10:12.

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  7. Adeolu Akinyemi
    August 26, 2013 at 8:27 pm

    @Ben, if your purpose is to expose details of your Pastor’s life, I have not said anything directly about him. If all pastors have a scandal going on, is that the standard? That’s however not correct.

    You also don’t know the meaning of impact. Impact is a function of God’s assignment, and everybody answers to God. The carnal man however judges eternal assignments on God’s behalf. What is the scripture that determines different people’s level of spirituality? Are you speaking from Biblical revelation or just in a hurry to comment?

    I don’t have any secret sin, if I do, please do me a favour and reveal it on my behalf, I’m happy to be exposed on the earth so that I repent and can make it to my masters side, than ride as a celebrity here only to be told I never knew you. True love is speaking the truth.

    Did you read the bible? When Jesus lambasted the Pharisees and told them that they go through great length to win souls, only to convert them to twice the son of the devil than themselves. Only Jesus knows who is saving souls to Crisis and who to Christ.

    Being careful not to sin is not keeping quiet. Silence in the presence of evil is sin.

    I am yet to comment about your Pastor’s issue though. I think that’s the responsibility of some people at this time. When they fail, God will raise other stones.

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  8. Caleb
    August 27, 2013 at 3:58 pm

    Its Obvious some people here don’t understand the seriousness of what we are talking about. This is a case of gross sexual misconduct and adultery. The scripture stated how serious it is, even worse when it is done by someone who is suppose to be a leader, an example to others. But am more interested in clearly stating from a scriptural standpoint, what is necessary steps to recovery and consequences of attempting to cover it.

    God revealed his view of adultery and sexual misconduct and the punishment for it when telling Abimelech that he was as good as dead for taking Sarah with intentions of making her his wife (although Abimelech did not know that she belonged to Abraham). (Ge 20:2-7) Judah decreed the death penalty for Tamar for harlotry.—Ge 38:24.
    It is indeed that serious but am more concerned about proper steps to correct wrongs rather than cover them.

    Confessing sins to God and to one another.
    The disciple James counsels: “Openly confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may get healed.” (Jas 5:16)

    Conversion—A Turning Back.
    Repentance marks a halt in the person’s wrong course, the rejection of that wrong way, and the determination to take a right course. If genuine, it will therefore be followed by “conversion.” (Ac 15:3) Both in Hebrew and in Greek the verbs relating to conversion (Heb., shuv; Gr., stre′pho; e•pi•stre′pho) mean simply “turn back, turn around, or return.” (Ge 18:10; Pr 15:1; Jer 18:4; Joh 12:40; 21:20; Ac 15:36) Used in a spiritual sense, this can refer to either a turning away from God (hence turning back to a sinful course [Nu 14:43; De 30:17]) or a turning to God from a wrong way.—1Ki 8:33.

    Conversion implies more than a mere attitude or verbal expression; it involves the “works that befit repentance.” (Ac 26:20; Mt 3:8) It is an active ‘seeking,’ ‘searching,’ ‘inquiring’ for God with all one’s heart and soul. (De 4:29; 1Ki 8:48; Jer 29:12-14) This, of necessity, means seeking God’s favor by ‘listening to his voice’ as expressed in his Word (De 4:30; 30:2, 8), ‘showing insight into his trueness’ through better understanding and appreciation of his ways and will (Da 9:13), observing and ‘doing’ his commandments (Ne 1:9; De 30:10; 2Ki 23:24, 25), “keeping loving-kindness and justice” and ‘hoping in God constantly’ (Ho 12:6), and walking in his ways and not in the way of the nations (Le 20:23) or in one’s own way (Isa 55:6-8). Prayers, sacrifices, fastings, and observance of sacred festivals are meaningless and are of no value with God unless they are accompanied by good works, justice, the elimination of oppression and violence, the exercise of mercy.—Isa 1:10-19; 58:3-7; Jer 18:11.
    This calls for “a new heart and a new spirit” (Eze 18:31); one’s changed thinking, motivation, and aim in life produce a new frame of mind, disposition, and moral force. For the one whose life course changes, the result is a “new personality which was created according to God’s will in true righteousness and loyalty” (Eph 4:17-24), free from immorality, covetousness, as well as violent speech and conduct. (Col 3:5-10; contrast Ho 5:4-6.) For such ones God causes the spirit of wisdom to “bubble forth,” making his words known to them.—Pr 1:23; compare 2Ti 2:25.

    Thus genuine repentance has real impact, generates force, moves the person to “turn around.” (Ac 3:19) Hence Jesus could say to those in Laodicea: “Be zealous and repent.” (Re 3:19; compare Re 2:5; 3:2, 3.) There is evidence of ‘great earnestness, clearing of oneself, godly fear, longing, and righting of the wrong.’ (2Co 7:10, 11) Absence of concern for rectifying wrongs committed shows lack of true repentance.—Compare Eze 33:14, 15; Lu 19:8.

    Consequences of covering sin.
    Sharing in the sins of others. A person can become guilty of sin before God by his willing association with wrongdoers, by his approval of their wrongdoing, or by his covering over their conduct so that the elders do not know about it and take appropriate action. (Compare Ps 50:18, 21; 1Ti 5:22.) Those who stay in the symbolic city “Babylon the Great” therefore also “receive part of her plagues.” (Re 18:2, 4-8) A Christian associating with or even saying “a greeting” to one who abandons the teaching of the Christ becomes “a sharer in his wicked works.”—2Jo 9-11; compare Tit 3:10, 11.
    Timothy was warned by Paul against being “a sharer in the sins of others.” (1Ti 5:22) Paul’s preceding words as to ‘never laying hands hastily upon any man’ must refer to the authority granted Timothy to appoint overseers in congregations. He was not to appoint a newly converted man, for such a one might get puffed up with pride; if Timothy failed to heed this counsel, he would reasonably bear a measure of the responsibility for whatever wrongs such a one might commit.—1Ti 3:6.

    The foremost reason to confess a sin—committed either against a fellow human or against God—is to gain an approved standing with God. Jesus Christ indicated that we must first resolve any difficulty with our fellow men and make peace with them before we can worship God with a good conscience. (Matthew 5:23, 24) Proverbs 28:13 says: “He that is covering over his transgressions will not succeed, but he that is confessing and leaving them will be shown mercy.” When we humble ourselves in the eyes of Jehovah God and ask for forgiveness, we will win his favor and be exalted in due course.—1 Peter 5:6.

    We need to follow the right course as Christians or have we lost it?

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