With the recent news of a marriage that just reconciled, I’ve seen some comments
Some people are already predicting failure.
Already waiting for the next bad headline.
Already saying, “It can’t work.”
If every time you hear about a marriage or relationship doing well, your first instinct is to look for the flaw, the secret, the cheat, or the reason it will crash… pause.
That reflex may not be wisdom.
It may be wounded thinking.
And I say that with kindness, not judgment.
When your default belief is that healthy relationships don’t exist—or that everyone is pretending—it often means something inside still needs healing. Disappointment. Heartbreak. Experiences you never processed.
We are in a new year. This is a good time to do the inner work.
Sit with someone you trust.
Talk to a counsellor or therapist with godly values.
Have the honest conversations. Heal properly.
Yes, people in healthy marriages may not make noise about it. That’s true.
But believing that bad relationships are the norm is not healthy—and it’s not godly.
Love is real. Healthy relationships exist.
But you must be whole enough to recognize them when they appear.
Share this with someone who is hoping for love—and healing.
