The 180 degrees seminar in OOU went very well. 11 of us left from Lagos (9 of us as part of Generis Solutions) as part of the planning committee for this event. Pat Utomi also came in with his convoy during the seminar. The programme was anchored by Image consultant, Lolu Mogaji. Speakers were Pat Utomi, ‘Gbenga Sesan and my humble self. The none verbalized theme for the day was standing out of the crowd.
That crowded picuture garnished with the title “is this fair?” has been challenging my thoughts, inspiring me while being a source of concern in the past few days. While as a nation we mourn for air disasters, this teeming crowd of people queuing for the opportunity to sit test for a job opportunity beats the disaster of an aircrash. These are Nigeria’s current leaders straining for scarce resources while being surrounded by abundance. How can young children be fighting for a drop of water in a cup while the rain pours around them? I have asked myself how come majority of the people who have struggled hard to get a degree come out of the higher institutions blinded. Can it be that everybody is looking in the same direction? Must we all look endlessly for Jobs? And while we wait, must we stay idle and become TV addicts?
Before you crucify me for my perspectives, let me quickly lend credence to them by giving clear examples, personal examples. I remember the first scholarship aptitude test I went for while in University. I was in part one then. A day before going for the interview, I discovered that the names that came out in the dailies for this same interview were many. I resolved that rather than go for the interview and wait like all the other applicants, I will take advantage of the crowd that I will find there. Believe it or not, I actually went to the market to buy what I believed people would be interested in buying while they waited, I actually also went there and sold them. Thinking back, I’m also amused. The business didn’t go very well, but at least I tried my best to not be a part of the crowd ( I also got the scholarship, so if you are reading this and you remembered you bought something from a colleague at lawschool, that was me). A year after, another oil company came out of the dailies with the names of the people shortlisted for aptitude test for their scholarship. The names were again many from my school and the venue was about 2hrs from OAU ife. I decided to team up with my friends and reading partners, Segun Abolarin, Bisi Ibikunle and Niyi Oyelade to put money together and organize transportation services to take people to and fro. Since we were also shortlisted, we can be on ground there and here to make sure that things worked. Needless to say, the proceeds from that successful business gave me the satisfaction of a scholarship well ahead of the crowd. I already had a scholarship at this time, but I still did not want to be in the crowd.
I hold a firm belief that there are opportunities in this country, too many. If you disbelieve, go to our international airports and ask yourself, what are these foreigners looking for in a so called mosquito infested environment? I have watched fear factor, foreigners won’t come here if they were afraid, a lot of them never leave their countries till they become president :). But some of them have come to find out that the stories of Africa are different from the realities on ground. Every problem is an opportunity in disguise.
Everybody can choose to stand out of the crowd, but it takes deliberate action. You can’s sit in the premises and claim to be standing on the promises. Opportunities will not drop into your laps, you need to put your laps where the opportunities are dropping. Standing out of the crowd is a deliberate and concious effort. You need to ask yourself, what does the crowd do that those who stand out from them do not do? You also need to ask, what do great men/women do, that the crowd does not do? By making a habit of the activities that make the great differ from the crowd, you set yourself on the journey to greatness.
1. Have a clearly written down goal of what you want to achieve with your life in the next 5, 10 and 15yrs. Statistics show that 3% of the populace do this, can you imagine? By simply having a goal and writing it down you have already reduced the crowd of people in your category by 97%. If the world’s population is 6 billion, you have just placed yourself in the class of the top 180 million people.
“Your hands can’t hit what your eyes can’t see – Mohammed Ali”
2. Spend quality time thinking everyday. Thinking is a deliberate act, it requires concious effort, silence, reflection and introspection. Its not as easy as it sounds. The greatest men in this world also happen to be the greatest thinkers. 1% of the world thinks regularly. In fact George Bernad Shaw, a renown thinker and philosopher is quoted as saying that by thinking once a week, he has made himself an international figure. So just by spending quality time thinking, you have become a part of the top 1.8 million in the world.
“Few people think more than two or three times a year. I’ve made an international reputation for myself by thinking once or twice a week“- George Bernard Shaw
3. Know yourself! Now I don’t know if that sounds funny to you, but a lot more people do not know themselves. The more I speak with fresh graduates, the more I see that the lack of clarity that plagues so many. Unfortunately the first assignment in education ought to be personal awareness. Your knowledge of the topic of you, ought to be the prerequisite into studying any course. Coming to understand your strenghts weaknesses, opportunities and threats, gives you a lot of leverage in determining direction for your life. Don’t leave it all to your social mirror of friends and family, take personal responsibility for knowing and being at ease with yourself. Over 80% lack clarity about themselves, by knowing yourself, you have seperated yourself from another crowd, and you are down to 360,000.
It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude. — Ralph Waldo Emerson
4. Read a book a week! Readers are Leaders! If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have time to lead. The people who stay ahead of the crowd are people who by virture of their reading habits, know more and are more confident. If you read an hour a day everyday, in a week you should have finished a book and after a year you would have gotten the equivalent of a PHD. Less than 1% of the people you meet do this. This brings you to top 3,600 of the crowd of the population of the world.
“When I got [my] library card, that was when my life began.”
~ Rita Mae Brown ~
“The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who can’t read them.” ~Mark Twain, attributed
“Today a reader, tomorrow a leader.”
Margaret Fuller quotes
5. Become a specialist in your chosen feild. This you can do by writing articles or even a book on that topic (this differenciates you even further), get active in a network of professionals in your chosen area ( you are not likely to be too many there), learn to speak at conferences (at conferences there are about 500+ attendees and one speaker- being a speaker takes you out of the crowd). Also learn to look out for opportunities and finally learn to boldly confront your fears.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.” — Aristotle
If you do all this right, you will not only be ahead of the crowd, you will be a “first among equals, second to none”(numero uno, secundum non). You will aslo be Sui Generis – In a class of your own.
Lets have your take on this…
11 thoughts on “Stand Out from the Crowd”
Well done Deolu. You are truly a blessing. Keep up the great work.
Well, coordinated thoughts, truths that have stood the test of time in the past centuries.It cant be overemphasized the number of people who are still in a dilemma of what to do with their lives.
May be I should use this medium to unofficially invite as many as are in this category to the mentorship session with Deolu and Gbenga ( You can learn more about it on this site), because, its not too bad not to know, but it’s unforgivable if you dont know and dont seek help.
Oga, keep up the good work, we are learning!
A word in season to the weary soul…………..the world will always stand for him that knows where he is going.
God bless you for this piece
Thanks Guys,
I’m always encouraged whenever I see a comment, good or bad, but certainly delighted that when I throw my stones in the dark, it hits someone really good…and motivates actionable change.
Yeah, we cant remain in the crownd and expect to have result. The world stands aside for everyone that knows where he/she is going. And that explains why HAVING A CLEAR GOAL is essential. If you dont have an idea of what you want to do with your life, you would settle for anything. Like people say, “everything goes”
I am really not surprised with the response I get from people who tell me that they need a job badly but can define the kind of job they want. All they know is that they need a job. I believe this is the main reason why we could have the experience shown in Is this fair.
Standing our from the crowd demands discipline. It means cutting down on the time you stay behind that TV. It might mean burning the night candle to read that book. Some of your friends might even misunderstand your actions. The choice is yours. So, start now by defining the path for your life and be committed to see through.
Wonderful i can see that even on this web page some people are standing out of the crowd cause thier names are on the list of the top commentators.They dont just read but also encourage Deolu with thier comments.God Bless
Really Good stuff, just like someone said earlier, a word is enough for the wise… I think DIRECTION in Life is of a Truth important.
You are an inspiration to me personally, Generis Boss! The Future indeed is more than BRIGHT!
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You are too much genius in one mind you really do stand out.
I have a new Mentor in you!!!
You are indeed a blessing yo your generation.God bless you real good!!!!
to stand out of the corwd takes courage and that is what some people do not have. thsi is a great post sir. keep up the good work.