I am currently in Calabar for the wedding of my disciple, son, and friend. It’s interesting that as this wedding is going on, the internet is agog with conflicting reports on the outcomes of a divorce that looks like a game.
Every once in a while, a marriage breakdown makes the news and socials follow, and discussions fly in different directions. It’s usually difficult to pick the pieces as people whose model is supposed to be Christ, and the Church get mired in the dirt of taking sides and supporting what they don’t really have any business with. The truth is there are many cultures, and different things work in them. Generally speaking, there is the culture of heaven and the culture of the world.
The differences in the cultures of heaven and the world are significant. The culture of the world is often driven by materialism, consumerism, and individualism, where the focus is on personal gain and success. On the other hand, the culture of heaven is centered on selflessness, love, and service to others.
In marriage, the world’s culture often promotes self-gratification and immediate satisfaction, whereas divorce and separation are often considered a solution to problems. In contrast, the culture of heaven values commitment, forgiveness, and sacrifice, where the goal is to build a lifelong partnership with one’s spouse.
In the world’s culture, things like how much the lady made from the divorce, what the guy did to protect himself, and the allegations surrounding their divorce are important gist. In Heaven’s culture, divorce only becomes an option when the marriage covenant becomes a threat to higher covenants like the covenant of life. In the world’s culture, you can marry for leverage and advantage, in heaven’s culture, marriage is for love, for a partnership to do God’s will, and for raising godly children.
Staying focused on the values of the culture of heaven is the best way to navigate the challenges of marriage if that is the kingdom you belong to. This involves prioritizing love, respect, communication, and teamwork with your spouse. It also means recognizing that marriage requires effort and sacrifice and that building a strong foundation takes time and patience.
By staying focused on the culture of heaven, couples can weather the storms of life and emerge with a deeper, more meaningful relationship. They can also serve as examples to others, inspiring them to live by these values and create a better world for all. Challenging times are a part of our growth process, the right culture saves the marriage while the partners grow in it.
To make your marriage breakup proof, switch kingdoms and switch cultures.
Kind Regards,
Adeolu Akinyemi.
