Husband sets wife up as sister, to survive. He’s happy for others to sleep with his wife and make him comfortable! Wife agrees to the plot like mumu. Is Abraham a model Husband? Is Sarah a model wife?Wife provides husband with her maid to literally go into! Husband agrees like mumu and impregnates the housegirl. Will you like to be like these?
Matured 40 year old man can’t even get a wife for himself, father orders for a wife for him, and he marries her at first sight! Do you want your marriage to be like Isaac’s?
Husband works hard for father inlaw to exchange his 7 years salary for a wife, gets swindled with another wife, and works for another 7 years to get the wife of his dreams! Would you want to copy Jacob and His Wives? Would you want to be Leah unloved first wife? Or Rachel, unfruitful love of his life.
Wife tells husband! Curse God and die! Husband refuses, but stays in the marriage and eventually receives God’s compensation through the same wife. Who wants a marriage modeled after Job and His wife?
A broke woman plays herself into the hand of an established man. Targets when he’s sleeping and positions close to him to get him to propose. Or would you want your husband to inherit you as part of a property transaction? Would you want to model Ruth and Boaz?
Or do you prefer to marry a man who you can only see when he asks you to come? Or get selected to marry your husband from a beauty contest where he gets to try you all out well before chosing? Will you like a marriage like Queen Esther and King Ahasuerus?
Show me a marriage in scripture the 21st century believer wants to model after. What we look for on the surface is not what any of them were made of. You need to be looking beyond the surface!
What made these marriages tic was the stories they found themselves in! God’s story! Sarah, Rebecca, Leah and Ruth, will find themselves in the lineage of Christ! Job’s wife will find herself Job’s partner in restoration. No marriage is worth following except that they lead to Christ! Jesus is the gate to the sheepfold, all who attempt to go to the people without Him are thieves! Enter through the sheepfold, see Jesus in the unions, see the unions as a platform for Christ’s expression!
The purpose of Marriage is to raise disciples – Check your Bible to confirm! (God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse. Mal 2:15 MSG).
The will of God is not a wife, it’s allowing Jesus to do the work of reconciliation through you. May our homes be a platform for God’s will to be done in the earth! As I celebrate 12 years with my wife, partner, lover and friend today may Christ in us grow in stature, wisdom and favor with God and man!
Follow us, only as we follow Christ!
Adeolu Akinyemi(GR)
